Christine Delphy pointed out in Rethinking Sex and Gender:
All feminists reject the sex/gender hierarchy, but very few are ready to admit that the logical consequence of this rejection is a refusal of sex roles, and the disappearance of gender. Feminists seem to want to abolish hierarchy and even sex roles, but not difference itself…Very few indeed are happy to contemplate there being simple anatomical sexual differences which are not given any social significance or symbolic value (Delphy p. 64).
People are just different. We have different sexes, different genders, different races, different talents, different opinions, different body types, etc etc etc.
Whipping Girl by Julia Serano also made me think of this. As she began taking female hormones her skin became softer, heavy objects seemed heavier, her metabolism changed, and she experienced sensations, emotions, tastes, and urges differently (Serano p. 221).
I do think women deserve respect, in many cases more respect and better treatment than they are getting right now. But I think feminists should rethink what they might mean when they demand gender equality. Women should be treated as well-respected women, not as men.