After screening the documentary “The Business of Being Born”, it was clear that this made us think about what we would do, what we would want if we were about to became parents. However, the vision presented by Ricki Lake and Abby Epstein is limited. They described a situation in which women do not have control over their own bodies, which is not acceptable. But in the same time, they created a sort of a new norm, a new hierarchy of what we are supposed to do, by emphasizing the idea of giving birth at home : this is not good either. And it is the same when it comes to household : we are made to feel guilty of what we do, if it does not correspond to the “new norm”. A woman who decides to stay at home and to do all the domestic work would be judged, as it is not what is expected in our societies nowadays, as she is not doing the “right” thing.
But who can decide what is this “right way” ? What is important here is the idea that we should have a choice. There are too much pressure on what we are supposed to be, whether in terms of sexuality, of household, or of motherhood. There are too many expectations. We must have an equal access to all the existing options, in order to use our right to choose what we consider best for ourselves.
“The Business of Being Born” (2008) – Ricki Lake (Executive Producer) and Abby Epstein (Director)