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What is domestic fairness in the Home?

The dynamics in which individuals, and partners choose to run their households is as diverse as the billions of people there on living on this earth.  Some might make the strong stance that everything must be split equally and evenly between both people.  This would include such responsibilities as, the division of chores, financial expenditures, daycare, and more.

However, I do not feel this approach is necessarily true.  It cannot be fair to demand domestic fairness within households, but then impose one possible method to ensure that equality is achieved.  As with everything in life, people should have the freedom to choose whatever they feel is fair in their home.  Lisa Belkin states in her article, When mom and dad share it all, “Gender should not determine the division of labor at home” (Belkin 2).  To me this is a perfect answer to such a convoluted question.  Domestic fairness in the home happens when both parties feel it is fair, period.  Whichever way they feel comfortable with dividing up the tasks, should be solely up to them.  The crucial point being, that society should not be able to rear its ugly head and influence the decision making process.  Gender should be left out of the equation, and moves should be made based on those particular individuals comfort level and personal desires.

Though, the ultimate question may be, can there ever really be 100% domestic equality in a home?  Is it ever really possible to maintain fairness in the home all of the time? The combining of two separate lives is a difficult task.  It has to be known that sacrifices will be made and following personal desires are not always an option.


Dad Test

Dads are often portrayed in advertisements and media as incompetent parents. This Huggies ad does exactly that; it says leaving babies alone with dads is “the toughest test imaginable.” The ad is geared towards an average, young middle class family. The message given is that when the father is clueless about parenting, Huggies diapers can pick up their slack. Gender dictates the roles of parents.
This ad is counterproductive compared to the vision discussed by Lisa Belkin in When Mom and Dad Share it All. She explains the importance of dividing work equally between parents. One couple she interviewed had made an agreement that “they would not be… the mother-knows-best mold” (Belkin 1). The article presents that mold as out-dated. However, this Huggies ad came out in 2012, and the mothers in the ad certainly know best. One mother tells her husband “Good luck” before leaving, suggesting that he is less skilled as a parent. This ad sets the expectation that mothers must pick up the slack after the fathers. I think society would benefit from ads that represent mothers and fathers as equally involved and skilled parents, because as Belkin says, “Gender should not determine the division of labor at home” (Belkin 2).

Work Cited
Belkin, Lisa. “When Mom and Dad Share It All.” NYTimes Magazine. New York Times, 15 June 2008. Web.